From early childhood I heard people talking about me and telling me that I am overly sensitive, and that I should better control my imagination. I thought it was a natural thing to feel what other people feel on every possible level: physical, energetic, emotional, and mental. I never imagined that other people do not feel all these things: physical pain, when someone is hurt, depression, when your friend or your family member is drained or lacks energy for life, emotional pain, when someone is cheated upon or treated wrongly in personal relationship, unpleasant feeling when a person around you carries negative energies… or is spiritually immature….
My genius daughter, the person who I truly believe is a very experienced soul simply tells me to surround myself with people who would be uplifting me rather than constantly draining. And actually I am! I am surrounded by a wonderful support-group of my own family members: the most loving husband, talented and caring grown up children, loving congregation members, great faithful friends (very faithful and loyal and hero-like, actually). So, yes, I am very much surrounded by great people out there.
And yet, of course, I still feel a great need deep inside to always be there for every suffering soul. Is there anything wrong with it? Please correct me if I am wrong, but I just naturally and subconsciously feel that is the right thing to do. No, I don’t exaggerate, and if some people just choose to be on the wrong path, and that is where they want to remain by their own choice, I would let them stay there. If I see that someone is willingly getting deeper and deeper into some swamp – I’m not jumping after him. No stupid and unnecessary sacrifices.
When you feel compassion, when you suddenly feel some strong emotion – start with acknowledging it first of all, but then – try to figure out it is even your own emotion. Of course it is “yours” don’t get me wrong… but is it “really yours?” Or are you just feeling compassion, empathy? Most our “feelings” are just energies, that’s all. Really. If you depersonalize energies, you are more than half way there – you actually won the game. You do not only know what this or that person feels and experiences, but you do not take it personally anymore. In that case you can start transforming negative energy. Please remember, every energy that is not transformed – is transmitted further. Try to avoid doing that.
Let’s summarize: everything you feel is energy. Don’t take it personally. Depersonify this energy by understanding that not a single person necessarily is “responsible” so to say…. (generally speaking… of course we are in a bigger sense responsible for our own actions, but that is another topic); Then when you became aware of the negative energy, realized that it is not yours (in this case I mean that you were not its FIRST CAUSE; of course I understand that after all we are responsible for our own reactions to situations and energies around); When all these steps are taken – don’t rush to transform this negative energy into positive using some “willpower” or something. Your awareness itself will transform it sooner or later. The more often you practice awareness or mindfulness, the easier the process will become eventually. And the last step is to keep balance in your life between helping others and recharging yourself. You will only have that much daily energy (no matter how much – there will always be some limit unless you learn to consciously recharge your social battery. And if you get too drained or too overloaded with some negative energy – you won’t be there for your beloved ones. And they are your number one responsibility after your God, of course, and your own mental, spiritual, and physical health. Please feel free to add my on FB is you are not my friend yet, for support purposes: Evelina Iablonskaya (the first letter in the last name is an “i”). Please comment: your opinion is very important to me.