As a teacher with over 20 years of experience I have met a lot of students with ADHD, and a lot of parents of students, and a lot of teachers, and college professors…. Surprised?
My younger sister was diagnosed with ADHD at a very early age and nobody new till she was already a grown up adult that she also is on the spectrum… So, let’s talk ADHD in adults, how about that?
ADHD…. it never disappears. But – you surely can practice and master certain techniques to manage the symptoms. Let us face it: it is much harder for people with ADHD to just sit still and meditate for hours, and even though you can learn to successfully do this, too, it is still much better to use your energy in a productive way rather than constantly trying to suppress it. What I am trying to say is that at times all these diagnoses sound like negative labels, and you are not ready or unprepared to see and notice talents, brilliance, and abilities of those people.
I want to concentrate on the positivity and affirmation. Let me clarify one thing: brains of people with ADHD are not broken. It is natural that we all have different brains. Also remember that brain is not a computer or a mechanism, but rather an organism: it is a leaving, moving, and changing organism (as the theory of neuroplasticity states). I assume my readers know enough of neurons (how they move and so on) – thus I won’t be talking about this in here. One thing would yet like to mention is how brain is capable of responding to surroundings.
Let us say a few words about dyslexia. Where this idea, this term even come from? Oh, well, let me tell you: it is based on the assumptions that EVERYONE SHOULD READ. Really? No, just answer this please? Is it really so? Think about days back then, when only the elite could read. Did it make all other people less valuable, less smart, less capable of success? Not at all. So what on earth has changed? The person who might be called disabled today might as well have been called gifted if he or she were born at some earlier times.
Often we are talking about success in life in terms of our brains fitting the surroundings. How about we twist it the other way: let us try to fit the surroundings to our brains, if it makes sense. Let me explain: why don’t we try to help people find jobs according to their strengths? Why make someone with ADHD sit in the office, when he or she could be more than happy move around all day long – and not everyone is capable of doing it, trust me! In this case the symptoms would not be even regarded as a problem at all. I remember of having one particular student (would never use a name, of course) in one of my high school classes with ADHD: the sweetest kid! He’d be my first help in organizing all extracurricular activities in our school; the best person to cheer you up at every school party, the most fun young man. Yet he could never sit for too long during classroom instructions, and I was fine with him walking around as long as he was (and he always was) engaged in the classroom discussions.
Let me just wrap it up: the energy that you have, despite of the negativity of the term in the diagnosis should never limit your self-esteem and undermine your talents and brilliancy, my dear. What others see as a problem, i see as the most positive set of traits in the proper surrounding. Let us remember about that. Feel free to add me as your friend on FB, if you at all use it: Evelina Iablonskaya. All comments and discussions are always a plus (big plus! big plus!)