Маленький Профессор

Многие скажут, что люди с синдромом Аспергер – да, интересные люди, но не очень подходят для хорошей семейной жизни. Давайте поговорим о маленьком профессоре…. Скажите, вы с ним знакомы? Вы знаете, о ком я говорю? Может это ваш внук, ваш сын, а может это вы, когда вы были маленькой девочкой или маленьким мальчиком? Сегодня я хочу рассказать о синдроме Аспергера, или о Аспи.

Когда развитие ребенка (особенно в раннем возрасте) отстает, то это резко бросаается в глаза… Согласны? Во время не начал говорить, ходить, играть с друзьями… А вот за то, когда опережает – да что за проблема, ОПЕРЕЖАЕТ, понимаешь! Посмотрите на него – ему только два, а он свободно разговаривает на двух языках и быстро овладевает третьим, а его словарный запас и круг интересов! А посмотрите-ка еще, он же сам берет раскраску и часами просиживате, создавая великолепное полотно из редчайших узоров…. А еще, как он изумительно общается со старшими! Как он хочет поделиться своими знаниями, ну просто педагог….. Если ты чего-то не понимаешь, ему не лень звять листок бумаги и нарисовать, в деталях объяснить…. Все еще не понимаешь? Да он потратит половину дня, чтобы ты наконец-то понял. А посмотрите на эту девочку! Умница, правда? Сколько ей лет? Да что вы говорите? Что за память! Все сказки Пушкина наизусть? Читает? Сколько-сколько? Три годика? Не может этого быть! Серьезная не по годам…. Задумчивая такая…. Нет, с юмором не очень…. Не то что плохо, но обычно она слишком серьезная. А что это она читает? А зачем энциклопедию-то?

Знакомо? Да, это мы о детях, правильно…. Пойдемте дальше…. Что, подростковый возраст? Как не интересуют мальчишки (девченки)? А не, понял, интересуют, но стесняется? Как девственник? А сколько ему? Серьезно? И еще не целовалась ни с кем? И такая красавица? Да как же это возможно? А на дискотеки ходит? Почему с подружками? Ну о чем ты с этими девочками разговариваешь, что они не хотят с тобой дружить? Как о Шекспире? А зачем же о Шекспире-то? Ну ладно, и что, нет такой, которая любит о Шекспире? Как все глупые? Так не бывает. Бывают и умные девушки. Да я сама по себе же знаю. Конечно же я была умной девушкой. Да о чем ты говоришь?

А я помню, как девчонки говорили, что женщина, чем глупее, тем умнее…. А мне это никак не удавалось. Как это так? Зачем глупее-то?

Я не буду разговаривать о симптомах и о диагностики. Буду разговаривать о характеристиках и о сложностях. Зачем? Чтобы понять, чтобы помочь.

Когда мы говорим об аутизме, аспергер обычно не является проблемой номер один. И на русских сайтах, как я заметила, об аспергере информации намного меньше. И еще, большинство русских сайтов основано на диагностики заболевания и на лечении. Кому это надо – тому это надо. Я не спорю. Но есть и другие потребности. И эта ниша, почему-то на русских сайтах все еще пуста. Есть одна интересная группа на ФБ – Грани Разума, которая как-то заполняет эту нишу. А кроме этого – не много. А жаль. Я конечно читаю и пишу по-английски с огромным удовольствием, но не все же имеют такую возможность. Вот поэтому-то я и пробую заполнить эту нишу. Именно эту нишу. И не претендую на что-то еще. И не считаю себя конкуренткой никому! У меня своя работа, я педагог. Преподаю английский и литературу в старших классах в США. Занимаюсь йоготерапией. В США практикуется инклюзив, поэтому встретить студентов в спектре в обычном классе – нормальное явление. Но кроме профессиональных интересов, специальным интересом для меня лично всегда выло самопознание, познание себя, помощь себе и ближним. И все мои статьи на этом блоге – про меня саму прежде всего! Хотя я и занимаюсь исследованиями, основная моя задача, это практика и личный опыт. Ну что, продолжим?

Характеристики, которыми я хочу поделиться, это прежде всего то, что по-английски называется social interaction. Это очень широкое понятие. Обычно это переводится навыки общения и так далее. Что же за трудность с общением у этих интересных, замечательных ребят и людей? Можно ли эти трудности преодалеть? И как? Во-первых, начиная с конца, да – можно! Дело в том, чтобы это осознать. Чтобы в этом признаться себе и окружающим. И чтобы окружающие рядом с вами так же сильно были заинтересованы  понять вас, как и вы – понять их. Сейчас я говорю из личного опыта и на своем примере. Я не согласна с теми, кто пишет, что весь мир должнен подстроится под аутистов. Не будет этого. Да и не должно так быть. Это все равно, что сказать, что все будет только по-моему. Не будет. В семье – этого никогда не будет. Поэтому у многих аутистов, к сожалению, браки часто распадаются. В каждых отношения нужно искать компромис. Но счастлив тот, чей партнер понимает и старается помочь ТАК ЖЕ, КАК И ТЫ. Так вот, первый шаг – понять свои особенности. Второй шаг – мягко, без претензий, говорить о них. Терпеливость должна быть с обоих сторон. Мне это не смешно, мне это не интересно, я туда не хочу идти, это для меня слишком громко…. Это не то же самое, что я тебя не люблю, или я тебя игнорирую. И еще – это не ты меня сейчас раздражаешь, а просто я сейчас очень раздражимая. По каждому пустяку, но я тебя люблю…. Извини, что я не люблю ходить на шумные вечеринки, где много музыки и где много пьют, где все разговаривают громко и ниочем. Да, я люблю читить и гулять в парке, да я часто нахожусь в задумчивом состоянии. Не то, что я тебя не слушаю. Иногда мне хочется побыть в своих мыслях. Или просто побыть. Побыть…. И когда ты меня поймешь, нам вдвоем станет намного интереснее. Я умею внимательно слушать. Но не все время. И тогда, ты мне все расскажешь о себе. Мне нужна структрура и четкий график. Я люблю хочить в одни и те же места, люблю носить одну и ту же одежду изо дня в день. У меня 5 одинаковых свитеров. Я люблю определенную пищу. Да, я могу есть салат 5 раз в день. Да, да, да…  Но я тебя люблю, потому что ты – не такой как я, потому что в тебе я вижу глубокий и замечательный мир, который хочу понять. Я люблю твое необыкновенное чувство юмора, я люблю твою спонтаничность, я люблю твою преданность, я люблю, что тебе не нужна философия, и я завидую и стараюсь понять, как человек может жить и выжить без философии, концепции…. Я люблю с тобой смеяться, люблю, что ты меня любишь, несмотря на то, что я ни такая, как все… Ни такая, как ты…

Аспергерам бывает очень трудно понимать окружающих людей, их реакции, их логику, но есть возможность многому научиться. И не только фейк, но и правда научиться. И тогда из маленького профессора получится замечательный и преданный  партнер на долгие годы.

What is Mind?

We probably heard that mind is a FUNCTION of the BRAIN. And consciousness is a function of the mind. Why do I disagree? Let us talk:…

I do not believe that we are to treat mind chemically!  – that is just a starting point for all of us. Yesterday I wrote a brief article on autism and inclusive consciousness in one of Russian autistic FB groups. The result – I was banned from that group. Now I want to try to expand on this same topic deeper and share it in a group where, hopefully, this approach will find better appreciation… lol But back to the point..

Some say happiness is a good chemistry of the brain and unhappiness is a bad chemistry of the brain. And nobody is responsible. Let us just go and change chemistry. Yea, right! Good one!

Let me tell you how we can use brain, mind, and thoughts without getting stuck in them, ok? I believe in the model of healing that is based on consciousness and not brain chemistry.

Let me start with the shocking therapy, my friends. In the yogic science there is no such thing as brain, ok? Brain is just body. There is a heart, there is a liver, and there is brain – it is body! That is it. Period.

Why there is tendency to exaggerate the importance of brain? Because modern educational approach is purely intellectual. Human mind is a totally different thing. It consists of 16 parts, but they can be split int 4 categories. The first one in intellect. Intellect has to be sharp. So it is like a knife. You use a knife to cut. There is nothing wrong with cutting things, but if you want to sow things together, knife is not a very good tool. Also not everything can be cut in pieces. If you cut life in order to learn more about it, like our modern science does a lot, then you are actually killing this life. And although it is a totally different topic, it is also a very good analogy. You cannot learn every aspect of life with intellect alone. If you give a flower to a scientist, he will rip it open and see… If he does it, of course he will see many elements in the flower, the only thing is that you won’t have the flower after that!

If you really want to know your child, please don’t cut your child open, it is not how it works… lol

You can only learn the material aspect by cutting it either with real knife or with intellect. Intellect is important. But it is a survival instrument only.

Let us move on to step number two. Intellect, no matter  how sharp, cannot survive without a certain amount of memory. In my school, where I teach, my 9th grade was performing yesterday. It was a play about a young boy who lost his memory. The last words of the play were: “I don’t know who I am…”

Whatever your IQ – if we take away your memory…… you maybe still intelligent. That is what i hate in IQ tests. People put well educated children and poorly educated children through the same tests, and they say that they have measured their IQ. No you have not! What you have measured has nothing to do with intellect. You have measured the volume of information. That’s it! Some less educated children, if you put them in real life situation, they will end up really smart, because their intelligence is fully on!

Intellect looks smart only when you back it up with a lot of information. With data you look smart.

The  next dimension of mind is identity. Intellect is an instrument to protect identity. Identity allows intellect to function is this or that way.  Some of our identities are good, others are idiotic. Identity is like a hand. So you have a knife and a hand. If your knife is sharp you want your hand to be steady, right?

In today’s world there is no cultivation of a universal identity, cosmic identity. Today we mostly have limited identity. And it is destructive for our society.

All evil that  people do here on earth is just a question of limited identity. This is my way, this is your way…

Now let us talk about memories: there are many types of memories. Elemental memory, atomic memory, evolutionally memory, conscious memory, unconscious memory, subconscious memory…. there are many…..

This same body carries the memory of EVERYTHING that happened on this planet.

There is a great deal of evolutionary memory in us. And the evolution process still goes on! Some of my readers from the group that banned me strongly disagreed with my perspective. Yet rather than respect someone’s opinion some people… well… just exclude your from their conversation. Way to go! lol

So, the yogic idea of healing is based on tapping into different aspects of memories. Without it you will continue acting in an immature way…

The fourth dimension of mind is intelligence before boundaries. It is very important. When I started writing about it (in much simpler way than now) people asked me if I was on drugs. Now that just shows their level of intellect.

In modern society people don’t have time to think about life. Because they have to have two or three jobs. Why do you need to have three jobs when there is so much land around? Is it not enough land to grow food? No, it is because you want to buy your food in WalMart…. I got it…

If you are interested in finding out more about how human mind works or want to share… let’s talk…. I won’t ban you if we disagree… lol

 

Не убить гения в малыше!

Ваш ребенок – это живой росточек. Позвольте ему расти. Воспитание ребенка – это не производство. Система образования зачастую напоминает фабрику. Всех учат одному и тому же и точно так же. Все должны в результате получиться одинаковыми. Смысл же человеческой жизни заключается соверенно в другом. Внутри каждого ребенка находится маленький расток гениальности. Вопрос заключается только в том, хватит ли нам терпения, чтобы позволить этому зародышу гениальности прорасти. Во всех остальных случаях нашу образовательную систему можно сравнить с производством пельменей. они все похожи друг на друга. Перед тем как заводить ребенка, мы должны понять, что каждый ребенок – это проект. по-крайней мере лет на 20. Это если у вас все пошло по плану. Если не все пошло по плану. то это проект на всю жизнь. И к этому надо быть гововым. Потому что это жизнь. Каждый ребенок – это жизнь! Каждая жизнь обязательно цветет, созревает. и приносит плоды. Раньше или позже. Одна жизнь созреет к 12 годам, а другая к 40. Но есть ли у вас достаточно терпения ухаживать за этой жизнью? Нет одинакового рецепта на всех. То что у нас принято называт цивилизациией не имеет никакого отношени к цивилизации. Мы боимся жизни. В хорошем обществе каждого человека ценят за то, что он человек, а не за его достижения. Если ты посадишь хрезантемы, то через три месяца они расцветут. А если ты посадишь молодой дуб…. Ему требуется больше времени, чтобы принести плоды. Ты посадил дуб – 8 летб 12 лет – результат не велик. Ты хочешь его за это срубить? А ты знаешь во что он может превратиться, если у тебя хватит на это терпения? Вот об этом я и говорю. Если ты будешь сравнивать дуб с хрезантемой и называть его глупцом только за то, что он не расцвел так быстро, как хрезантема…, наверное ты будешь не совсем прав. Ребенок – это не индустрия, ребенок – это жизнь.

Why Meditate?

First of all – its magic! Yes, I guarantee you this: try it for yourself and see if there is any sense in what I am saying…. Couple of days ago I was asked to talk about meditation to a group of high school students where I teach, because they all were (and some more than others) stressed before State Tests… Some of the students in my school, as much as in any other schools are on the spectrum. There are many students that have different diagnoses and needs As we all know that there are also people around as well as students that are not diagnosed at all and yet they are pretty much on the spectrum as well…. And this is a topic of itself, and I am really planning on writing about it pretty soon. It is one of my favorites right now, and I keep promising myself a more serious research on that one… But, let us get back to the  point. I was asked to speak about meditation. Then several days later, I met some adults who got very interested, and asked me to share the fundamentals with me…. I do not know why I always took for granted that everybody who speaks English on my FB pretty much knows it all about meditation. It is probably because most of my FB friends do it for years if not for living… LOL. And yet it is becoming more and more eye opening, that the Universe is seriously pushing me towards sharing the knowledge I got. And not 10-20 years later, when I retire and open my yoga studio…. (which has always been my plan, lol). NO, right here and right now. There is a need. So, O.K. I prepared several PowerPoints and start teaching some yoga flows.

When I was thinking about how to target this meditation topic and to make it as accessible as  possible, I started with a simple question: how did you look when you were born? What was your size? What is your size and how much do you weigh now? How did it happen? I got a lot of different answers. A lot. From food to DNA. Well, answers were not what I was looking for. The question was enough to make one think. I liked the answer food….. So, I continue asking more questions. If I told you that I knew a person here in our school who knows how to make a man out of a banana? What would you say about such man? One of the answers was more similar to what I was looking for: that this man is some kind of god or something…. Well, although this answer is a bit controversial, it targets the main idea. If a person knows how to make a man out of a banana, he has creative powers all right.

What if I told you that you all have these powers? Don’t you do that every day? You eat food and that food becomes you? But if I asked how you did it, most if not all of you would go like: IDK…

Right we all do it unconsciously most of the time. Now, would you be interested in getting SOME of that creative power and use it consciously?

This is what meditation is all about. With meditation you CREATE AND RE-CREATE…., bro! Can you hear me? CAN YOU HEAR ME?????? No kidding… And many people on the spectrum and off the spectrum need to hear that loud and clear. LOUD AND CLEAR.

I know that I wrote a lot in my WordPress about connections between neurological and physiological changes in the brain and meditation. And I can re-direct you to those earlier articles. Those loving to research more on your own, I recommend further research on this topic. This article is educational, informational, but it is also an editorial, so to say. And it is meant to be persuasive. I advocate and encourage! If you read my earlier articles, you probably noticed a big change. BIG CHANGE. I used to share my experience with others. But I could not imagine how great is the need! I knew that suffering is out there. And I knew that I know the medicine. But somehow deep inside I was not sure that people want it. Now that I see people around not only want it but are desperate for this cure, I hesitate no longer. I don’t care if there are a bunch of other sources out there one can learn from. What I did not and could not understand until now is that not so many naturally research, synthesize, and practice new knowledge by themselves. I could not imagine that some people might lack self-motivation to do all that on their own. And if I were just to do this job for them of “chewing” all the great info that is out there anyway, and share it with them – I am ready to do so.

Since my early childhood, as much as I remember myself I was a learner. A 100% self-motivated constant researcher and learner. I remember that I was fascinated in encyclopedias. I was just reading them for fun at the of 13, as well as many books on psychology, pathology, philosophy, and some earlier works of Christian Church Fathers (not modern) Orthodox and Catholic theology…. Seneca, Aristotle, Freud, Stoics, as well as Thomas Aquinas, St. Augustine… – these were my interests. I put myself new and new targets: I want to learn that, I want to accomplish that, I am interested in that…. And the best thing for me was to do it on my own. Me and my books and thoughts in the park. Many of my friends and people I knew were similar to me, so I assumed that everybody in the world is like that. Well, I met a lot of smart people with MA degrees and PhD that are not able to do that on their own, unless they have someone by their side to motivate them….

We are all different, I suppose. What we all have in common is that we all are human. We all know what suffering means. We also all are capable of tremendous transformation and growth. And we all can help each other. So, I am ready to share the basics with each and every one who cares to learn more about meditation, and I will continue systematizing the information. Feel free to look through my earlier articles, but as always – my future ones would always be the better version.

P.S.  I was also asked to talk a bit about Buddhism and Dharma and ideas of a kind. And I will do that too. As well as about both theological notions of ecumenism and different perspective of a kind. One thing a rarely tell people, maybe because it is unpopular with most, or maybe because you stereotype when you hear this kind of things, but I have an absolute passion towards theology. I did study both protestant and catholic theology, but have never been satisfied because I never met a really ecumenical teacher. There is much more teachers of a kind now. But this is all a different story, my friends…. More about this later.

With Love, Yours – EveLisha (my mom used to call me that when I was a kid, still does… lol)

ADHD – You Are Brilliant, My Dear!

As a teacher with over 20 years of experience I have met a lot of students with ADHD, and a lot of parents of students, and a lot of teachers, and college professors…. Surprised?

My younger sister was diagnosed with ADHD at a very early age and nobody new till she was already a grown up adult that she also is on the spectrum… So, let’s talk ADHD in adults, how about that?

ADHD…. it never disappears. But – you surely can practice and master certain techniques to manage the symptoms. Let us face it: it is much harder for people with ADHD to just sit still and meditate for hours, and even though you can learn to successfully do this, too, it is still much better to use your energy in a productive way rather than constantly trying to suppress it. What I am trying to say is that at times all these diagnoses sound like negative labels, and you are not ready or unprepared to see and notice talents, brilliance, and abilities of those people.

I want to concentrate on the positivity and affirmation. Let me clarify one thing: brains of  people with ADHD are not broken. It is natural that we all have different brains. Also remember that brain is not a computer or a mechanism, but rather an organism: it is a leaving, moving, and changing organism (as the theory of neuroplasticity states). I assume my readers know enough of neurons (how they move and so on) – thus I won’t be talking about this in here. One thing  would yet like to mention is how brain is capable of responding to surroundings.

Let us say a few words about dyslexia. Where this idea, this term even come from? Oh, well, let me tell you: it is based on the assumptions that EVERYONE SHOULD READ. Really? No, just answer this please? Is it really so? Think about days back then, when only the elite could read. Did it make all other people less valuable, less smart, less capable of success? Not at all. So what on earth has changed? The person who might be called disabled today might as well have been called gifted if he or she were born at some earlier times.

Often we are talking about success in life in terms of our brains fitting the surroundings. How about we twist it the other way: let us try to fit the surroundings to our brains, if it makes sense. Let me explain: why don’t we try to help people find jobs according to their strengths? Why make someone with ADHD sit in the office, when he or she could be more than happy move around all day long – and not everyone is capable of doing it, trust me! In this case the symptoms would not be even regarded as a problem at all. I remember of having one particular student (would never use a name, of course) in one of my high school classes with ADHD: the sweetest kid! He’d be my first help in organizing all extracurricular activities in our school; the best person to cheer you up at every school party, the most fun young man. Yet he could never sit for too long during classroom instructions, and I was fine with him walking around as long as he was (and he always was) engaged in the classroom discussions.

Let me just wrap it up: the energy that you have, despite of the negativity of the term in the diagnosis should never limit your self-esteem and undermine your talents and brilliancy, my dear. What others see as a problem,  i see as the most positive set of traits in the proper surrounding. Let us remember about that. Feel free to add me as your friend on FB, if you at all use it: Evelina Iablonskaya. All comments and discussions are always a plus (big plus! big plus!)

 

Can you stop helping everyone and just find ANOTHER HOBBY?

From early childhood I heard people talking about me and telling me that I am overly sensitive, and that I should better control my imagination. I thought it was a natural thing to feel what other people feel on every possible level: physical, energetic, emotional, and mental. I never imagined that other people do not feel all these things: physical pain, when someone is hurt, depression, when your friend or your family member is drained or lacks energy for life, emotional pain, when someone is cheated upon or treated wrongly in personal relationship, unpleasant feeling when a person around you carries negative energies… or is spiritually immature….

My genius daughter, the person who I truly believe is a very experienced soul simply tells me to surround myself with people who would be uplifting me rather than constantly draining. And actually I am! I am surrounded by a wonderful support-group of my own family members: the most loving husband, talented and caring grown up children, loving congregation members, great faithful friends (very faithful and loyal and hero-like, actually). So, yes, I am very much surrounded by great people out there.

And yet, of course, I still feel a great need deep inside to always be there for every suffering soul. Is there anything wrong with it? Please correct me if I am wrong, but I just naturally and subconsciously feel that is the right thing to do. No, I don’t exaggerate, and if some people just choose to be on the wrong path, and that is where they want to remain by their own choice, I would let them stay there. If I see that someone is willingly getting deeper and deeper into some swamp – I’m not jumping after him.  No stupid and unnecessary sacrifices.

When you feel compassion, when you suddenly feel some strong emotion – start with acknowledging it first of all, but then – try to figure out it is even your own emotion. Of course it is “yours” don’t get me wrong… but is it “really yours?” Or are you just feeling compassion, empathy? Most our “feelings” are just energies, that’s all. Really. If you depersonalize energies, you are more than half way there – you actually won the game. You do not only know what this or that person feels and experiences, but you do not take it personally anymore. In that case you can start transforming negative energy. Please remember, every energy that is not transformed – is transmitted further. Try to avoid doing that.

Let’s summarize: everything you feel is energy. Don’t take it personally. Depersonify this energy by understanding that not a single person necessarily is “responsible” so to say…. (generally speaking… of course we are in a bigger sense responsible for our own actions, but that is another topic); Then when you  became aware of the negative energy, realized that it is not yours (in this case I mean that you were not its FIRST CAUSE; of course I understand that after all we are responsible for our own reactions to situations and energies around); When all these steps are taken – don’t rush to transform this negative energy into positive using some “willpower” or something. Your awareness itself will transform it sooner or later. The more often you practice awareness or mindfulness, the easier the process will become eventually.  And the last step is to keep balance in your life between helping others and recharging yourself. You will only have that much daily energy (no matter how much – there will always be some limit unless you learn to  consciously recharge your social battery. And if you get too drained or too overloaded with some negative energy – you won’t be there for your beloved ones. And they are your number one responsibility after your God, of course, and your own mental, spiritual, and physical health. Please feel free to add my on FB is you are not my friend yet, for support purposes: Evelina Iablonskaya (the first letter in the last name is an “i”). Please comment: your opinion is very important to me.

Neuroscience and Meditation – What Can Possibly Be in Common ?

What can possibly connect meditation to neuroscience? Ancient meditators used to dedicate their whole life to spirituality and studying their own nature, especially the nature of one’s mind. Inside what they called the mind tons of thoughts and emotions constantly traveled back and forth, like little people in little cars on little roads (well, that is my modern comparison, there were no cars at that time for them to compare their thoughts to, you are right!) Meditators cared very little for those pesky little “creatures” – thoughts. Those thoughts were also very “hungry guys” and craved for more. Yet ancients soon realized that if they would stop feeding those pesky “little creatures,” the mind will become peaceful and finally get still. So they soon learn that the mind is not something that should rule “you,” but that “you” should rule the mind. With the mind still and quiet, the ancients believed another form of vision opened itself, And that new form was a much more clear vision that that of the “mind full of thoughts.” Now we all or at least very many of us know what meditation is. This process of quieting one’s mind on demand (as one of the technique) is called meditation ( I understand over-simplification here, but it is done on purpose). Modern neoroscientists call it brain exercises. The word meditation is not very popular in the field. And yet the techniques is the same. Now many, if not all of us know that our brain changes and often visible changes are possible due to these or other brain exercises. The term that is popular is the field is brainplastisity. Certain meditation techniques are offered in the field of neuroscience as well as meditation to re-wire and reshape the brain. For people who don’t meditate at all and no nothing about what I am even talking about the brain works in so to call “default-thought mode.” Also the parts of brain that are responsible for fear and anxiety show less neurological activity in the people who meditate on a regular basis. Although neuroscience was the first modern field that got so involved in the studies of meditation techniques, psychology got interested in meditation as well. Psychology uses another term “cognitive talk therapy” to describe the notion that your thoughts are not “you.” Meditators fast learn to notice how repetative our thoughts are. Our thoughts are mere interpretation of what we see around. They do not represent reality clearly. Whether those thoughts are positive or negative very clearly depend on way to many circumstances. So the way we interpret the world today may depend on our physical state, our hormonal level, whether we are stressed, hot, warm, cold, hungry, full of energy, or not so much…. We can interpret somebody’s behavior very wrongly just because of all those and many other things. Bad and negative thoughts are just stupid stories in your head. Stop feeding them and allow them to get quiet and not so agitated. There are many different meditation techniques. And they are not all the same. Start with something simple. And it does not need to be watching your breath because it can soon get boring and discouraging for some more active people. So do jogging meditation, swimming meditation, hiking meditation, yoga meditation, tai chi meditation, and what not, as long it clears your mind. Feel free to look for some of meditation techniques I write about on my Mindful Breathing Site, and feel free to read my personal story. Also, if you are not my friend on Facebook yet and you have an account and love to learn or share on the topic of meditation or any similar topic – feel free to add me:  Evelina Iablonskaya (the first letter is an “i”)/ and instagram evaisco/  Hope to hear from you soon, my dear friends. I love you all. We are all in this together. Evelyn J.

Autistic Empath

 

I was contemplating on the two notions: empathy and telepathy. There is a great connection between the two. The one person I have in mind is autistic. Many are used to seeing autistics as the opposite of empaths. Wrong! I believe new research should be made or something, but it is plain wrong! Just sharing my personal experience, that is. Wish I could say more, for now I’m just contemplating, as I said. If someone has something to add on this – please do. It’s not like: “I don’t know your mind exists” But rather: “Your mind for me is an open book…” See the difference? A big one, a very big one!  Feel free to add me on my personal Facebook page for further discussion: Evelina Iablonskaya. Talk soon. Also, check my instagram: evaisco. I am more often on those two than on wordpress, due to the busy work schedule. It is usually more appropriate to post something short there. Anyhow, I am sorry if it takes me longer to respond to some of the messages I get on wordpress. Feel free to directly message me in case something is serious and important. No BS, please! Thanks, appreciate. No dating etc. Lol.

Autism Talks

I truly believe that every good article written in any other language but English simply NEEDS TO be translated into English. But that is just my thing…. So, here we are – these are not my words any more, and you’d see the name of the author of these words signed beneath. Please, enjoy!

I can:

  • Be a good talking companion on nearly any given topic
  • Be an attentive listener (My talking companion will feel he is the only one in the Universe important for me at the moment; simply saying I have mastered the skill of mindful listening techniques)
  • To find common language with the kids
  • To find common language with animals
  • Train rats; To teach them simple things: understand words, listen. I’m not sure how I do this, I guess this is just intuition.
  • To think quickly in stressful situations and act accordingly rationally: run fast, save someone, fight, depending on the circumstances. (please don’t mix stress that people acquire due to extreme situations with chronic stress. Extreme stress releases a huge dose of adrenaline into your blood. This adrenaline stimulates me very well, and I act rationally and become capable of enduring a lot, so I act accordingly fast and correctly. Chronic stress, on the other hand releases cortisol, and this hormone affects me differently. I can’t stand it.
  • To fight back physically in the street. (I hope I still can do that, have not really practiced it for a while.)
  • To explain subjects, teach, tutor. I did it as an amateur: I taught elementary math to an adult who was not good at it. As well as science: general biology, anatomy… I was contemplating on becoming a tutor.
  • To write official complains on different bad people (and there are still a lot of those ones out there). As well as fight for my own civil rights by filing a lot of government paperwork.
  • To professionally steep tea for Chinese Tea Ceremony.
  • To prepare certain incenses all by myslef.
  • Meditate
  • Control my inner organs with various techniques. (I stopped practicing this, but I’m planning on returning back to it again).
  • To tolerate pain as well as strong pain using other techniques and will power, so that pain lessened and did not prevent me from enjoying my daily life.
  • To memorize long digital equations, patterns, any types of combinations, passwords, codes, phone numbers and so on.
  • Write my own ideas using pentagrams, I can write a long paragraph using this style.
  • To read tarot card ( But I have stopped doing this  now)
  • To retain by breath under water for at least two minutes.
  • To use nunchaku;
  • To take up to 15 pills at once;
  • To swim using crawl stroke for a long period of time,
  • To rollerblade
  • To write poems
  • To write prose
  • To memorize lengthy texts by heart (poetry as well as prose)
  • To change my opinion about people one or the other way.
  • But I think the most important thing for me is self-control. This helps me always and everywhere.

These are the things that first came to my mind. I decided not to talk about my professional qualities.

Veta  Volkova