Autism Talks

I truly believe that every good article written in any other language but English simply NEEDS TO be translated into English. But that is just my thing…. So, here we are – these are not my words any more, and you’d see the name of the author of these words signed beneath. Please, enjoy!

I can:

  • Be a good talking companion on nearly any given topic
  • Be an attentive listener (My talking companion will feel he is the only one in the Universe important for me at the moment; simply saying I have mastered the skill of mindful listening techniques)
  • To find common language with the kids
  • To find common language with animals
  • Train rats; To teach them simple things: understand words, listen. I’m not sure how I do this, I guess this is just intuition.
  • To think quickly in stressful situations and act accordingly rationally: run fast, save someone, fight, depending on the circumstances. (please don’t mix stress that people acquire due to extreme situations with chronic stress. Extreme stress releases a huge dose of adrenaline into your blood. This adrenaline stimulates me very well, and I act rationally and become capable of enduring a lot, so I act accordingly fast and correctly. Chronic stress, on the other hand releases cortisol, and this hormone affects me differently. I can’t stand it.
  • To fight back physically in the street. (I hope I still can do that, have not really practiced it for a while.)
  • To explain subjects, teach, tutor. I did it as an amateur: I taught elementary math to an adult who was not good at it. As well as science: general biology, anatomy… I was contemplating on becoming a tutor.
  • To write official complains on different bad people (and there are still a lot of those ones out there). As well as fight for my own civil rights by filing a lot of government paperwork.
  • To professionally steep tea for Chinese Tea Ceremony.
  • To prepare certain incenses all by myslef.
  • Meditate
  • Control my inner organs with various techniques. (I stopped practicing this, but I’m planning on returning back to it again).
  • To tolerate pain as well as strong pain using other techniques and will power, so that pain lessened and did not prevent me from enjoying my daily life.
  • To memorize long digital equations, patterns, any types of combinations, passwords, codes, phone numbers and so on.
  • Write my own ideas using pentagrams, I can write a long paragraph using this style.
  • To read tarot card ( But I have stopped doing this  now)
  • To retain by breath under water for at least two minutes.
  • To use nunchaku;
  • To take up to 15 pills at once;
  • To swim using crawl stroke for a long period of time,
  • To rollerblade
  • To write poems
  • To write prose
  • To memorize lengthy texts by heart (poetry as well as prose)
  • To change my opinion about people one or the other way.
  • But I think the most important thing for me is self-control. This helps me always and everywhere.

These are the things that first came to my mind. I decided not to talk about my professional qualities.

Veta  Volkova

Autism Talks – I don’t live in another world. I just see the world differently, that’s it

Have not done that in a while, but HAVE to do it now! I am translating this from Russian and reposting. This is my younger sister’s post about herself. Many of you know her and some of you are her friends on Facebook and in real life. Yet for all those who are not – especially for those who speak no Russian at all – I highly recommend to read this. I do not know if it is clear from her writing or not – she is autistic.
Hello to all. I see this world in a different way. I a not better than you are. I am not worse than you are. We are just different. And that’s o.k. Let’s try to make friends. Maybe it can work out? Let me tell you about myself. I like to ask two questions: where? and what is it doing? To all other questions I know answers myself. I never ask question what? I know the answer. I never ask why? My answer to this is – I guess it is meant to be that way. But these two questions: where? and what is it doing? – these are my constant questions. I live with them. Most of the times I know answers to these questions, too. But unless and until I do – my mind won’t rest. Until a see the whole picture clearly. Everything I know – I see. Everything I see – I know. I don’t like to be taught. I simply observe. I observe life around me very carefully and that is the way I learn. You think I am not attentive. You are wrong. You words can interest me. Or not. Sometimes I hear them as a bubbling brook or as a piece of music. My senses for me are much more important than words. They are highly developed in me and I trust them. If I am not listening to you it does not mean I am not attentive. I am very attentive to everything that is going on around me. You would be the first one to leave something in my room or forget, because you are so much in your thoughts. I would never do that. I am extremely attentive. I see and notice every detail. You are telling me that I do not look straight in the eyes. I use sight vision, you know? It’s much more developed in me, that’s it. I think I see from above and see the whole picture all at once. But this picture is full of little details. And if I do not see a specific detail, I will be looking for it, asking questions about it, trying to figure it out. I won’t be able to rest until I know. One more thing – I am good at memorizing numbers. The dates are very important to me. I don’t think I know a single man whose birthday I would forget. It would be a horror! I guess that is it for now. Let me know how YOUR brain works!

Can Your Breath Clear Your Mind? Может ли ваше дыхание очистить ваш разум?

Breathing meditations or breathing techniques are one of the building blocks of yogic philosophy. Дыхательные медитации или дыхательные упражнения – это один из главных элементов в философии йоги. Yogis strongly believe that correct breathing techniques influence on our brain-waives. Йоги искренне верят в то, что правильное дыхание влияет на наши мозговые волны. Let us expand just a tiny bit on what exactly are those brain waives and why are they so important in our daily lives. Давайте немного углубимся в то, что такое мозговые волны и постараемся ответить на вопрос, какую роль они играют в нашей ежедневной жизни. You probably heard about Alfa, Delta, and Teta waves, haven’t you already? Вы наверное уже слышали о Альфа, Дельта, и Тета волнах, да или нет? Teta-waves occur when you sleep, relaxation and meditation. Тета волны возникают во время сна а так же релаксации и медитации. Delta-waves occur during deep sleep or hypnosis. Дельта-волны возникают во время глубокого сна или гипноза. Now let us talk about Alfa-waves! These are the most popular waves among the common public. Теперь давайте остановимся на альфа-волнах. Эти волны оказалиь наиболее популярными у основной публики. Это волны положительных эмоций, чувства комфотра, и успокаивающей гармонии. These are the waves of positive emotions, comfort, and harmony. There are many outside techniques how you can stimulate your own brain waves. (Music therapy will tell a lot on the topic). Существует множество внешних методик, котрые помогают стимулироват мозговые волны. Музыкальная терапия – это одна из таких методик. But yogis propose a lot of breathing practices that one can learn in order to accomplish the same goal. Но йоги предлагают множесво дыхательных упражнений. If you are working with younger kids, it is good to stay simple and just explain the results of breathing exercises, something like – they will allow you to say calm in difficult circumstances. Если вы занимаетесь с маленькими детьми, то не надо им объяснять всю технологию, стоящую за этими упражнениями. Достаточно только сказать, что они помогут тебе спокойно себя вести в трудных ситуациях. For people on the spectrum breathing techniques help them to get connected to their bodies. Для людей аутического спектра, дыхательные упражнения помогают им лучше понять свое тело. One of the best working techniques for beginners (and these are the best for ASD) is the ujayi breath. Одна из лучших методит для новичков и аутистов это дыхание уджаи. This technique allows you to keep breath slow and steady. Этот метод помогает вашему дыханию оставаться медленным и ровным. You have to make a soft restriction on the back of your throat and you breath in and out through the nose with your lips close. Вы должны создать мягкое препятствие в горле и дышать через нос с закрытыми губами. You have to be able to hear you breath loudly but softly. Вы должны слышать свое дыхание громкое но мягкое. If you have watched Star Wars, then the sound of your breath should be similar to Darth Vader breath. Если вы знакомы со Звездными Войнами, то ваше дыхание должно быть похоже на дыхание Дарт Вейдера. This is another reason why it may be so interesting to young kids. Это еще одна причина, почему это дыхание может быть интересно для детей. Give it a try, research more about this technique, and share your results. Попробуйте, почитайте на интернете побольше об этом дыхании, и дайте мне знать, какие результаты.

Stop that Self-Talk!

Did you notice that your mind is always busy? Does it sometimes drive you nuts? How often? Ever? Have you ever heard anyone tell you to just stop thinking too much. O.K. What was your answer? Don’t tell me, I know….

And yet, would you care to try? Or let us maybe start with “why on earth do I need to do it?” You start with acknowledging and admitting – yes, I do have a lot of self-talk in my head. But not just in general. (I often or I usually have a lot of self-talk). No, you have to “catch” it, so to say. Then you are like…. O.K. Who IS talking? And who is WATCHING the self-talk? Let me tell you. You are not your thoughts. But the observer, yes, the observer is you. The moment you got it, the moment you separated yourself from your thoughts – you GOT IT. And I mean YOU REALLY GOT IT, bro! Then there is no need to stop the thoughts, just keep watching them, that’s it. And in watching itself is a relief, and the watching will pacify them, and make your mind so clear that you’d be able to see beyond the thoughts, if you now what I mean. Give it a try. Enjoy!

In Search of True Love

Everything we are doing on this planet is in search of Love. But how many of us found this True Love? Many might claim they have… and they might claim they are happy… are they, really? Can they say that Love has made them more calm, more peaceful, more loving…less neurotic? And if no, than what is the problem? Let us just distinguish between the search of Love and the expression of Love. These are two major differences if you allow. For any relationship you first and foremost need to have something to share. And what is the most important thing you can share? Yes, yourself, your presence. Unless you learn to be present – every relationship will be dysfunctional. Unless you learn the skill of presence, your relationship will give you as much pleasure as it will give you pain. Many people struggle to balance between the two polarities – negative and positive. All  these polarities rise from the human mind. That is why couples that claim that they deeply love each other often fight. Unless you build your relationship on a totally different ground, your relationship will sooner or later collapse. I don’t claim to be an expert whatsoever, but my own children, who have relationships of their own often tell me that they wish their relationships lasted as long and were as strong as my marriage with my husband did. So what is the magic? Let us concentrate on romantic relationships for that purpose. Every polarity always lead to dysfunction. True Love, on the other hand has no polarity, it has no opposition, because it is not rooted in our minds. True Love is a very rare thing. In its perfect sense we can say that God is True and Pure Love. Yet humans are not incapable of Love. Every problem that you have in your relationship you will always blame on your partner and very seldom on yourself. It is easier to notice negativity in the Other rather than in “me.” What problems couple come across? Well, let’s just mention a few. Jealousy, for example is one of them. But there is also insensitivity and the need to be bossy and to be right all the time, the need to teach, impulsiveness, manipulations, and many more… Now, on the other hand there are many positive polarities as well. You can be deeply in love and you feel very happy. You only see each other and don’t see the world around. True Love is different from both of these examples. As a human being your Self consists of several layers. On a physical level, you can temporarily obtain unity of the two polarities, but it won’t last forever. On the mental of psychological level it is even harder and more rare. You can never obtain ultimate happiness on a mental level only. Your thoughts are not who you are. On this level you will always feel insecure no mater how great your thoughts are. You feelings and emotions as well as your thoughts come from the Ego Center of your brain, they are self-oriented and clinging. Clinging is just a form of addiction. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. No matter what you are addicted to, even your partner. It is not yet the True Love. Every addiction reaches the point when it does not work for you anymore. And then you feel the pain. The addiction does NOT  bring you the pain. It just uncovers that pain that is already there. Yet avoidance of relationships is not the answer either. The relationship does not bring you your pain. The pain is there already  anyway. So, what are we going to do? You have to bring an intense presence into your relationship as well as in any other parts of your life. You will never learn to be present for your partner if you cannot even be present for yourself. Search for the silence from your inner chatter and for the stillness in your busy world. Only when you get rid of your own pain you are ready to Love. Don’t try to fix the whole world. Don’t try to fix your partner. Fix yourself! If you feel any pain – who should be healed? If you understand this much – this is transforming in itself, this will open you the door to True Love.

WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? the pronoun you is used here in solely literary purpose to establish closer relationship with the reader and can be addressed to you as well as to me and anyone else, enjoy… feel free to add me on Facebook – Evelina Iablonskaya and my Instagram evaisco

Who do you think YOU are? What you refer to as “you” is just a bunch of thoughts, feelings, and emotions, that’s it! But that is not really “you.” You think that is “you.” You don’t even live or experience life to the full extend. You are just stuck in your psychological drama. It’s like you were watching the movie in the theater and fell asleep. That is what going on with your life for real. Now imagine – the movie is over and you suddenly woke up. But that is too late, the movie is already over. That is how most people die, unfortunately. They wake up only at the end of their lives… You thought your thoughts and emotions were your life… That’s the most unfortunate self-deception. What is going on in your mind, what is going on in my mind actually means nothing at the end. We can sit in one room together and have absolutely different dramas going on in our minds. Let me open you a secret – your or mine, for that purpose psychological reality is not existential reality. These are two different things, my dear friend. Your or mine psychology has no existential basis. You can make up whatever you want! Whatever you want… It’s just in your head, that’s it. If your psychological creation in your head becomes bigger than the real Creation, you need to set this anomaly right. It’s O.K to make your psychological reality. But you must be able to switch it off when you don’t want it. It cannot be on for 24 hours. It is not the reality. You are just making it up. It you understand what is real and what is made up – you have awaken to your true Self, my friend. Now you are ready to navigate your way through life!

Ну что поделаешь, бывает…. Прошу прощения, что так долго… Вместо перевода вчерашней английско статьи, прошу любить и жаловать русскую адоптацию. Что за …… (извините за мой французский) происходит внутри моего мозга! Вот!

Ну ладно, после длинного заголовка, приступим сразу к делу. Мозг! Давайте его сначала себе представим. Представили? Вот и замечательно. А теперь давайте мысленно углубимся внутрь. Продолжайте двигаться. Наше путешествие внутрь мозга сегодня будет происходить следующим образом. Мы будем двигаться нейродорожками от одной части мозга к другой. В каждой из частей мозга, о которых мы будем сегодня разговаривать, мы будем останавливавться. Договорились? Здорово! Тогда пройдемте к той части мозга, которая скрывается непосредственно за вашим лбом. У ней есть научное название, конечно. По-научному, мы говорим о боковой префронтальной коре головного мозга. Но я сегодня дам ей другое, более яркое и запоминающееся название. Я назову ее Баллансионным Центром или Центром Балланса, это уж как хотите выбирайте. Почему именно такое название? Да потому, что это место в вашем головном мозге непосредсвенно участвует в принятии самых хлоднокровных и логических решений. Можно сказать, что это место баллансирует наше поведение в ежедневной жизни. Это тот центр, который отвечает за логическую обработку всех импульсов, которые происходят в нашем организме (и отражаются в разных частях головного мозга).

Ну что ж, двигаемся дальше. Готовы? Давайте опустимся внутрь, в самую середину головного мозга. Согласны? Что же мы здесь наблюдаем? По-научному, на русском языке, это место называется медиальная префронтальная кора головного мозга. За что же она отвечет? За все, что связано с вами. С вашей памятью, мечтами, взглядами на жизнь, мнениями, позициями. Ее ничто и никто не интересует, кроме вас самих. Поэтому я и назову ее Эго-центром, от слова эгоист.

Двигаемся дальше. Подплываем к маленькому островку. Lobus Insularis, по-латыни. Или просто инсула (отсюда однокоренное инсульт). Важный островок, нечего сказать! Он лежит еще глубже, прямо на дне великого нейропотока. И этот островок отвечает за наши чувства и сенсорику. Да, поняли, правильно! У аутистов этот островок ну очень активен! Давайте его так и назовем – Центр Чувствительности или Центр Сенсорики.

А теперь пришло время для сравнительного анализа двух разных мозгов, извиняюсь. Сначала посмотрим, как работает мозг человека, который никогда не медитировал. Всмотримся внимательно в мощнейшие нейрологические потоки текущие по двустороннему руслу от Эго-центра к Центру  Чувствительности и обратно! Вот это скорость, вот это поток! Наши стрелки зашкаливают… К чему же такое сильное движение нейронов между этими центрами приводит на практике? Да вот к чему. Каждый звук, каждое ощущение в нашем теле наш мозг автоматически интерпретирует, как серьезную опасность! А ведь наше тело ежесекундно чувствует сотни, а у аутистов и тысячи разных сигналов! И представьте, какой это стресс для человека жить в таком состоянии!

А вот и объяснение тому, почему в моем первом, английском заголовке стоит не совсем приличное слово. Я просто хотела привлечь внимание читателей к тому, какая несправедливость, на первы взгляд, происходит в наших умах. Кто же допустил, что Эго-центр, находящийся в самом центре нашего головного мозга – это, как говорится иностранный шпион, который работает против нас самих. Как же так?! Да нет же, на самом деле, я открою вам секрет. Нет ничего странного с тем, что происходит в вашем Эго-центре, поверьте. Пробема совсем в другом. Ну что, угадали? Или еще нет? Ну ладно, открою вам тайну….

Проблема заключается в том, что у вас просто сильно недоразвит Балланс Центр или Центр Балланса, называйте его как хотите.

А теперь посмотрим на нейрологический поток в голове человека, который регулярно медитирует! Ха-ха! Только посмотрите – поток между Эго Цетром и Цетром Сенсорики или чувствительности практически прекратился. А вместо этого мы может наблюдать великолепное нейродвижение между Центром Сенсорики и Центром Балланса. О-го-го! Да ладно, ребята, это еще не все. Смотрите сюда, как говорят в Одессе. Эго центр, что с ним случилось. Да ведь он и не Эго Центр уже совсем. И работает он по-другому, да и название ему надо бы было поменять. Ведь теперь он уже не концентрируется на ваших собственных мыслях и эмоциях, а прислушивается к точки зрения других людей. Вот и все. Вуаля! Сказу вам только одно – если вы еще ничего не знаете о медитации, пожалуйста почитайте литературу. У меня на сайте, к сожалению большинство статей пока по-английски, но я обещаю написать и русскоязычные заметки. Желаю вам успеха. Успеха вашим деткам, вашим внукам, и всем тем, кто вам дорог. До скорой встречи. Эва Яблонская

WTF is going on in my brain Что за х-ня происходит с моим мозгом (русский перевод последует за английским текстом завтра, обещаю)

If you can imagine your brain, go ahead, please do so! Think of the area right behind your forehead. People call it lateral prefrontal cortex. But I will call it a balance center. It’s a pretty important part of your brain, bro! It is responsible for helping you making logical decisions. If this part of your brain functions properly, it will save your life, trust me. It will help you balance weird impulses that are constantly bombarding you from other parts of your brain.

O.K. Let’s move on. A little bit further down and a bit lower lays the part of your brain that is called a medial prefrontal cortex. It is more like the inside of your brain. Or the inside of the inside, if you can imagine… This part of the brain concerns only with you. That’s right. Let’s call it Ego Center! You, you, you…. Your memories, your dreams, your view point, your perspective…. You name it!

Let’s move on, baby: we are approaching insula. I’ll call it Feelings Center. It lays even more to the bottom of the brain and it is responsible for feelings and sensations.

Now let us look at the brain of a person that never meditated. We notice a very strong neurological connection between the two centers of the brain: the Feelings Center and the Ego Center. That sucks! Because every time you feel any sensations in your body, your Ego Center processes them as danger. And there can be tons and tons of sensations going on through our bodies per second. Now it is time to ask the WTF is going on with our brain? Why this Ego center is allowed to work like that against me? It sits inside of me and constantly deceives me! Yep, that’s true! Let me tell you why. There is nothing wrong with neurological connections and pathways between the Ego and the Feelings Centers, but!… you Balance Center is underdeveloped. And that is a BIG problem.

Now let’s look at the brain of a meditator. Regular meditation practices break down neurological connections between the Ego Center and the Feelings Center. Meditation also hep establish stronger connections between the Feelings Center and the Balance Center. And last but not least, meditation redirects the work of the Ego center from MY-self towards “the Other.” Yes! Now rather than me-me-me you feel empathy more naturally. Now you tell me, isn’t it great? Enjoy!

Shape Your Brain the Way You Want It Слепи Свой Мозг Сам русский перевод статьи следует сразу за английским

Did you know that you are capable of changing your own brain? If you doubt that let’s at least agree that your brain does change. Everything that happens in your life influences your brain. Brain is capable of making new connections. Neurons that fire together – wire together. Did you know that people who meditate have very different neural paths from people who don’t meditate? You don’t even need to be an expert of meditation. A beginner will already look like a super-hero, believe me! It’s all because meditation works wonders. It’s all about the technique itself, the marvelous tool. Not about who uses it. With some simple practices you can very fast totally rewire your brain yourself. The more your brain changes – the easier your life will become. it’s not just about your formal meditation it is actually about doing it while you live your life, while you are doing your regular life activities. Your formal meditation is that case becomes a sort of classroom. Many practitioners concentrate on the consciousness or awareness meditation. Yet the truth is that with time conscious approaches go into your automatic or subconscious mode. And they work just fine in that mode. MRI results sow increased thickness of the cortex in those people who meditate daily (as well as many other changes I won’t be naming here). So why  wait? Become an architect of your own brain. You brain is ever static but it continually remodels itself based on your experiences. Your brain constantly chatters. Meditators call it “monkey mind.” Why monkey? Unnecessary motion and copying. if you learn to quiet and eventually calm your ind on demand, then your brain will become your best friend and not your enemy.

Eve Jablonski

Знаешь ли ты, что ты сам в состоянии изменить свой мозг? Если ты не веришь в это, то согласись, что мозг меняется. Все, что происходит в твоей жизнь влияет на твой мозг. Твой мозг способен выстраивать новые нейрологические дорожки. Нейроны, которые загараются вместе – спаиватся. Знаешь ли ты, что люди, которые медетируют имеют большее количество различных нейродорожек в головном мозге по сравнению с теми людьми, которые не медитируют? Тебе не надо даже быть экспертом в медитации. Даже новичок, который только что начал медитировать уже будет похож на профессионала супергероя. И это не завивит от того, кто именно медитирует. Все это происходит благодаря тому, насколько замечатльна сама методика. Это как чудесный инструмент, который ты держишь у себя в руках. С помощью  этого инструмента ты сам можешь перепаять свой мозг! И главное, что медитация работает не только тогда, когда ты сидишь в позе лотоса, занимаясь формальной медитацией. Нет, она работает всегда, когда ты просто спокойно занимаешься своими повседневными делами. А вот формальная медитация в этой ситуации может быть сравнима с классной комнатой или уроком, где ты учишься жизни. Результаты МРТ показывают значительные физиологические изменения в подкорке и разных частях головного мозга у тех людей, которые медитируют. Многие люди, практикующие медитацию часто говорят о необходимости осознанной медитации. И это правильно. Но раньше или позже все доходит до автоматизма и медитация переходит в подсознание. Тогда чего же ты ждешь? Стань архитектом своего мозга и своей судьбы! Твой мозг никогда не находится в статическом состоянии. Он постоянно занимается болтавней. Это часто называют умом обезъянки. Почему именно это сравнение? Обязъянки зачастую делают много ненужных движений и часто копируют всех вокруг. Если ты научишься притишать и наконец просто выключать эту внутреннюю болтавню, твой мозг станет твоим настоящим другом и пересане быть твоим врагом.

Эва  Яблонская