What is stress? Stress is when your physical body responds to the problem. The body releases certain chemicals into the blood and your organism begins to work in a stress-mode. Do you remember moments like these? Your heart begins to beat faster, you start to sweat, your mouth gets dry, and all your muscles tighten? You become anxious and know that it is your panic attack coming to get you.
it is not just difficult but almost impossible to deal with seemingly simple life situations. You don’t react normally anymore. Your anxiety is killing you. You easily get frustrated and reactive. These are many other symptoms affect all your life. Everything changes: your appetite, your sleep patterns. You become physically sick more often and it gets harder to recover from what looks like a simple virus.
Usually anxieties that you have are irrational and even stupid. But no matter how stupid a problem may sound to your friends or family, it seems serious to you. If you ever experienced a panic attack, you know that it totally closes you up to the help from outside. People around you cannot help you. I remember how my husband and my daughter would try to tell me about my anxiety, but their words only made my anxiety worse.
Anxiety changes brain chemistry. It took me some time to learn to open to my family members and to trust them. I learned to express how I feel and that helped me to look at myself from a different perspective. Although your family or friends are very important as a support in winning your war with anxiety, you yourself must take the most responsibility.
First let us correct the word “war.” You can never “win the war” with anxiety, but you can learn to manage it fully, Why is it important no to “fight” anxiety? Any time you “fight” something, you add additional tension. Imagine that you are a mother and the anxiety si your crying baby. You do not get mad with the baby for crying. You come to your baby, take her in your arms, hug the little one, and your son or daughter stops crying. Similarly to this, you should no try to fight your anxiety.
Start with noticing the first symptoms of anxiety coming. Often when anxiety is in its full it is a bit too late to start. It is harder to manage a full blown up anxiety attack than to deal with anxiety when it only starts to show first symptoms. When I realized that I suffer from anxiety, I started to read a lot about it. I trained myself to notice the first symptoms.
It is very important to early recognize the symptoms of your panic. You will notice that you start breathing not only deeper, but faster. This cause hyperventilation effect. Your body receives unusual amount of oxygen and your heart rate goes up. when your heart is pounding, you feel throbbing everywhere, especially in your chest, and on your temples. Due to adrenaline in your blood you often feel shaking. I do not want to name all of the possible symptoms and I know haw hard it probably is to read them to you.
The first thing I learned is the power of conscious breathing. Now I look back at my first steps and it is almost seven years ago when I tried my first breathing exercise or meditation. At the beginning it was strange. I sat in a lotus position, placed my hands on my lap and took my first conscious breath in . After that I practiced various breathing techniques. I learned different forms of pranayama and ujjayj breath. But what is the most important of all is your mind. Your breath can be deep or it can be shallow, it can be fast or it can be slow – don’t change it. Marry your thought or your mid with your breath and relax into what happens nest. I promise you a miracle the first time you breathe in mindfully and breathe our mindfully. Your brain will switch from the panic mode to the mode of the observer. You will no longer be inside your panic. You will now be outside of it and inside your breath.
I will talk to you very soon, my friends.
Namaste, Evelyn Jablonski